I may have finally realized what my dreams and end goal are, but the process behind it was not easy. It still isn’t even now. But I can definitely see the changes in myself, particularly in my confidence and the way I do things, which gives me a different sense of empowerment—like I know that I can achieve whatever it is that I desire because I believe that I can.
The process started off with a lot of confusion, doubts, and fears
Just like every other lost soul out there, I did not know what I wanted to do in my life or what I was supposed to become. All I know is that I wanted to write. When I graduated from college, I had so many options laid out in front of me. Should I join a PR agency? A marketing or advertising company? How about a publishing company?
But with all these options come with doubts in myself and my skills. You see, I considered myself as a jack of all trades but a master of none. Yes, I know how to write anything under the sun, but I do not have an expertise. I know how to write technical articles but I do not think I can write it for the rest of my life. Same goes with medical articles, research papers, and such.
I was more lost than ever and I questioned myself more and more each day.
My first stepping stone
I know being hard on myself will get me nowhere so I started looking for jobs—any writing jobs. My first job was at a marketing company which, unfortunately, had some financial problems which resulted in me to resign. Next was at a luxury magazine company which was the first stepping stone for me.
My first few months, I was excited to work and to write about things I do not really know and care about. The latest cars? I don’t even know how to drive. The latest jewelry? I only purchase cheap pieces of jewelry which goes rusty in a month. But hey, at least I felt like I was doing something, right?
I believe in my writing skills so I tried to write for others. I wrote using the voice of others. I wrote so they can make more money.
But then, I started to dream for myself
I started to ask myself, “What if I can write for myself and for the people who need to read my words the most?”. You see, I have a passion for keeping others entertained, relaxed, and feeling special. My friends and family come to me for advice. I love the concept of “empowerment” and “equality”.
So, what if I put all of those into words for everyone to read? What if I can actually inspire people through my words and help them become the best versions of themselves? That was an accomplishment I cannot wait to have.
I kept on daydreaming and visualizing myself being in that position in my life. I was imagining myself having my own website, interacting with people who seek my advice, all the while making money while doing it.
In a nutshell, it was my dream life.
I finally started
As I start to discover my dreams more and more, I realize how being in a corporate world tires and drains me. I felt like I was in a rat race with no finish line. I was rushing my way through life which actually slows me down in reaching my goals.
Funny how the person who loves to motivate was slowly becoming uninspired. That is where I followed my guts, gathered courage, and decided to quit my job.
That step right there gave me a breath of fresh air and a new door of opportunity to open. My dream was set by then—I wanted to have a blog. Specifically, a personal development and lifestyle blog wherein I can share my thoughts and stories to empower others, along with personal growth tips.
I took actions
I am the type of person who loves to plan out things first in my head. Hence, I did not jump straight into creating a blog. What I did, though, was indulging in activities and making visual reminders to help me not forget about my dreams.
I saved blogs and websites that inspire me such as Wit and Delight, I am Aileen, Lavendaire, and more. Before launching Kronicles, I brainstormed… a lot. I have lists of website names I can use, I spent days finding the perfect theme, I spent weeks reading and educating myself about blogging, and I seriously planned out what content I want to post. I was serious about each and every step I was taking.
This part of the process made me even more excited because it made me feel how real and achievable my dream is.
So here I am. I have successfully launched a blog I love which I also treat as my own business. I have interacted with a lot of people through Kronicles and I have never felt more accomplished.
The process of believing in myself and my dreams is a long winding process. I admit that I am nowhere near the end but the important thing is I started.
I am moving forward and slowly, but surely, progressing to reaching my dream life.
- You will question and doubt yourself, and that is okay. You are on your way to great things, and this is just the start. Just make sure that you do not let these things hinder you from moving forward.
- Start somewhere. You will never know what you want unless you put yourself out there.
- Do not be afraid to dream. Do not be scared to dream bigger. These dreams will push and encourage you to achieve your dream life.
- Take actions. A dream will remain a dream unless you do something about it. Set goals – from small to big ones as you progress.