I Rushed My Way Through Life; I’m Hitting The Brakes Now

“Make sure you finish your studies and graduate at the right time—no delays. Then head straight to finding a job. Go work your way up the corporate ladder until you reach the highest position. If you’ve reached it, work even harder and never ever stop. Quick, or time is going to leave you. Keep grinding and keep on moving.”

Do those sentences hit close to home to you as it did mine?

My whole life felt like I was participating in a rat race with no finish line in sight—just lots of obstacles and thousands of people competing with and against me. I try my best and hardest to surpass those challenges, yes, but when will I finally reach that finish line so I can finally rest? I have been running and sprinting for so long that I am afraid I do not know how to stop anymore.

I grew up scared of disappointing others so I had to portray an image that I was not spending my time to waste. I was pressured and rushed to figure out what my dreams are. Unfortunately, I realized my dreams a little too late so I “wasted” a lot of time going for “goals” that I thought would help me be successful and fulfilled.

But honestly? I just wanted at least a day off to be with myself. But how can I do that if the people around me are urging me to sprint every single day? My (ex) boss used to message me late at night and early in the morning as if making a wake up call that my job is never done. “Don’t miss the train”, he always say.

Another instance is when I am with my friends and all we talk about are our careers, accomplishments, and plans for the next day which sometimes feel like we are competing against each other. It is like we are silently asking each other “Who makes more money?”, “Who gets more praise from their boss?”, “Who is busier?”

As if being busy is the only acceptable image for people to consider that you are making the most out of your life.

I always used to be proud that I am a “skilled” multi-tasker but when I really thought about it, is it really something that does well to me?

Being a multi-tasker, I basically have to juggle all these deadlines and requirements in a short amount of time to the point that when I finish all of it, I am not fulfilled at all. I am busy, yes, but I am also exhausted, burnt-out, and uninspired.

Why can’t we just sit down, even for a second, and laugh about the mundane things we did for the day? Why can’t we talk about how we tripped while hopping down the stairs? Or how we saw a cute corgi with its huge butt walking across the road?

Why can’t we just stop rushing and hit the brakes for a little while? Maybe then you will discover what you really are meant to be.

Like what happened to me.

I finally got tired of the race. I quit and lost interest in sprinting my way to reach that finish line.

I realized that the reason I am participating in this race is not for me, but for others. I am rushing my way through life just so I can prove to others that I know what I am doing and I am not wasting even a second of my time. I wanted others to look at me like I have a direction I am following and a life path that is already well laid-out in front of me.

I realized I am living my life for others and I needed that to change.

The first step I made was to leave my job. It brought me all levels of anxiety and fears during the process but it was all worth it and I don’t think I am returning back to the corporate scene any sooner. That corporate ladder isn’t just for me to climb on.

So now, I spend my day living life like how I dreamt it should be: Getting 8 hours of sleep each day, eating complete meals, drinking lots of water, reading books, and discovering new skills. I finally got to take care of my body and do some workout.

I spend time with my family and friends I haven’t seen in a long time. I cut my hours off on social media (or sometimes completely ignored it) and I felt loads lighter. I do not ask how my friends are at work or what their current career plans are and I do not feel pressured to force myself to do things anymore.

More importantly, I have never missed a sunset (my favorite thing in the world) ever again.

I am now actually more inspired to conquer life… but at my own pace.

I started to spend my life walking and soaking in my surroundings until my dream—my true calling—was the one that made its way to me.

Because I had so much time in my hands and my heart is light and at ease, I was able to write again. Before, I just wrote everything and anything under the stars; more of a hobby if you must say. But now, being with myself and slowly discovering my skills has helped me and my craft find its purpose.

I want to inspire others through my writing. I want to give career and personal advice and help people in their journey of self growth and development. I want to push people to be their very best while still enjoying what life has to offer—and there is a lot to offer.

So now that I know what I want to do, am I finally re-joining the race? Maybe. Or maybe I am just starting a race on my own. A race where I can walk, sometimes run, jog, and hit the brakes when necessary.

Remember that as long as it is for you, your self-growth, and self-discovery, you are wasting no time at all so hang in there and don’t feel the need that you have to rush your way into everything.

Trust me, life is definitely more worth living if you’re living for yourself.

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Krisy started Kronicles with the aim to inspire and empower. If she is not motivating people through her written words, she's either pretending she doesn't have social anxiety, petting random dogs, or watching the sunset.

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29 Comments
  • Snehal
    March 20, 2019

    I can totally related to your post. When I felt that everything got too much for me. I took some break to feel refresh! 😊

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      Yes! A break every now and then won’t hurt.

  • Stacie
    March 20, 2019

    I love this. Too many of us get on a bullet train through life, but that’s how we miss all the good stuff. I like to slow down and take everything in whenever I can.

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      Same as me! Thank you so much for reading <3

  • CherishingFlo
    March 20, 2019

    This is so motivational. I feel like so many people are moving through life on a timeline because they are told that’s what they have to do and they don’t have to disappoint. I love the thought of just slowing down and listening to the beat of my own rhythm for a change. Great post. Very motivating!

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      Thank you so much! I agree so much with what you said about everyone moving because of a timeline. Thank you for reading!

  • Erin Knight
    March 20, 2019

    “life is definitely more worth living if you’re living for yourself.” – I wholeheartedly agree with this. And so much like you, I graduated from M.A. degree when I was 24 years old because my family think it is the age for me to enter the workforce. I did not even remember taking a break from school and I was so burn out. I also regretted that I did not use my 4 months summer time to travel and relax. Now I am over 30 and I really cannot live under the shadow of other people, and I am more happier. Thanks for sharing your story and your thoughts. It inspired me continue my own journey and living my own life.

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      Thank you so much for sharing your story, Erin! I am glad my post inspired you <3

  • Subhashish Roy
    March 20, 2019

    After 29 years being in this rat race, I decided to give it all up to pursue my dreams.And today I am so happy.

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      I am so glad you are living your best life!

  • Terri Steffes
    March 21, 2019

    Sunsets are my favorite thing in the world, too, and I rarely miss one. We are peas in a pod. I am still on the rat race, though, at 60. I need to slow it down but right now, I have some responsibilities to manage.

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      We do have our responsibilities but taking even a short breather can already do you much good. Good luck to you, Terri!

  • Stephen
    March 21, 2019

    I love this post! I am in the same place in my life and this was very motivational for me! Slowing down is important. If you are speeding through life you will speed by all the good things!

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      I am glad this post inspired you! And I agree with your last point. Thank you so much for reading!

  • Heather
    March 21, 2019

    It’s funny. I was just saying this same thing the other day. I wish I would have taken my time and enjoyed my 30’s.

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      You still have a lot of time! I say start making the most of it <3

  • Porsha Carr
    March 21, 2019

    “I finally got tired of the race. I quit and lost interest in sprinting my way to reach that finish line.”

    My favorite part of your entire blog 🙂

    • kronicles
      March 21, 2019

      Thank you so much for reading <3

  • Lisa Favre
    March 21, 2019

    This is so inspiring and I think sometimes, we all just need to step back and make sure we’re not just rushing through it all. It’s important to go at our own pace for every aspect of our life.

  • Beth Pierce
    March 21, 2019

    It’s always great when you can slow down and gain some real perspective on life. Good for you!

  • Sara Welch
    March 21, 2019

    Sounds like you’ve discovered your purpose; glad you made time for yourself and discovered new passions.

  • Sharon Wu
    March 22, 2019

    this was so inspiring and thought-provoking to read! thank you for sharing your perspective. i think it’s important to take life one day at a time, cherish it, and learn from it! xx

  • remo
    March 22, 2019

    This is such a motivational post. Life should be big not long.

  • Eilidh Horder
    March 22, 2019

    Awesome post! It’s so easy to get caught up in the faster, faster, more, more society and other people’s expectations. Well done for slowing down to enjoy those sunsets!

  • Jeni
    March 23, 2019

    This hit really close to home! I also left the rate race about a year ago- I’m still figuring things out but now it’s in my own pace. Thanks for sharing this!

  • dani
    March 23, 2019

    I. AM. LOVING. EVERY. WORD. OF. THIS. ARTICLE.

    I am sorry if I am like a mad Filipino parent for having to write all caps but I just feel like I could have written this one. I wish everyone reads this article. I wish we just slow down and enjoy each and every bite of our food. I wish everyone sees the magic in taking things slow.

    • kronicles
      March 23, 2019

      AAAAHHHH thank u for reading, Dani ❤️

  • Andrew Fox
    March 30, 2019

    So interesting to read someones personal life.I like it.

    Thanks.
    Andrew | https://aimworkout.com/

  • Rhey | Self-Help Blogger
    April 1, 2019

    Well written. A lot of what was said resonated with me. It reminds me of an interview I had with a lady who said that you are not able to find your purpose when you are miserable. Great read, thanks for the post.

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